The Power Of Community.

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I was working 20 hours a day, gained about 40 pounds. My husband didn’t like me and my kids didn’t know me. It was all about me and my goals.

I didn’t feel good, and I was completely losing myself by overdoing it.

It was fun for some things, but unsatisfying at the end of the day.

We were born to connect. We were born to communicate together. Not to be lone wolves work more than we sleep or to be on our own.

This world is about coming together and creating something beautiful together.

You are not going to make the impact and leave a legacy by constantly going at this alone.

Everything changed when I started to work on personal development and leave the lone wolf attitude behind.

Which is why community is a large part of what I do.

You get to share ideas, network, and celebrate wins with positive minded achievers.

Who are you connected to?

What tribe are you in?

Is your circle holding you accountable to your next level?

I am looking for a tribe of ladies that are looking for a community to win, be transparent, accountable to their success and more.

Let me know if you are interested and can benefit.

 

Comment below.

 

~Until Next Time

Nerissa

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Do you ever feel like you’re playing small in your business?

And by playing small, I mean not doing all that you can, not reaching your potential.

Probably, if you’re being truthful, the answer is yes, right?

There’s not that many people I know of who are truly hitting their greatness in all aspects of their life, all aspects of their business.

We tend to play small.

I think we do that because it’s easier and it’s safer.

It’s safer to play small, you’re not putting yourself out there, you’re not risking things, money, time, what other people think of you.

You’re not risking anything.

So it’s easier to play small.

It’s easier to stay mediocre, even though you say you don’t want to!

It’s easier to stay that way.

I want to tell you about things that, in my experience, have always kept me back and what I’ve done over the years to push through to finally break into my greatness.

Listen, your greatness is going to be different from my greatness.

When I say your greatness, your greatness could be a $2 million a year business.

Your greatness could be just making an extra $500 to pay off the car bill this month to help out your spouse and your family.

Your greatness might be making enough money on your business so you can stay home with your kids.

Your greatness will depend on you.

There’s absolutely no judgment here.

Your greatness is your greatness, and only you know what that is

We’re going to talk about why aren’t you there.

What’s stopping you?

We’re going to talk mostly about business, but the stuff I’m going to talk to you about today is something that affects all aspects of your life.

So let’s get into it.

Four psychological traps that can keep you in mediocrity and away from your greatness.

I think you’re going to recognize these as I say them, but maybe you haven’t thought about them as traps.

1. “It’s not working” or “it stopped working”

What do I mean?

The first part, “it’s not working.”

Many times, we give up on something way too soon.

We give up on something saying it’s not going to work, where in essence, we just haven’t given it the time.

For example, I’m in a YouTube challenge right now.

I saw a guy who is crushing it with YouTube.

However, he showed a really cool graphic, where for the first four months, he was stuck getting very little traffic on his videos, very few views, not many comments.

Not much of anything on his videos, but he kept pumping them out every single day.

Pumping them out, pumping them out.

One month went by, not much.

Two months, three months went by, not much.

Then the fourth month, all of a sudden, some traffic, some views, some comments, some sales kicked in in the next month after that.

Most people after that second month, certainly after the third month, would have said…

“You know what, this isn’t working and I need to find something else.”

It comes down to believing what you’re doing that will ultimately lead to success.

Belief stems from who you’re listening to

You can have a belief that you know what they’re teaching works, because countless other people have had success before.

It’s just a matter of you getting in there and doing what they say, doing it over and over again until the results kick in.

I think this is the universe’s way of sorting out who’s really serious and who isn’t.

That’s my belief.

Because if success happened right away, everybody would be successful and the meaning would be less.

Success doesn’t happen right away.

In fact, sometimes success happens way down the road.

In my view that is the universe’s way of testing you to see how serious you are, how badly you want it.

“It’s not working.”

That’s a trap that you’ll say to yourself after you tried something for a while and it hasn’t been happening for you.

Anybody ever experience that?

I know I have.

I have been guilty in the past of trying something for a while and moving on because I thought it didn’t work.

Mostly it happened because I didn’t really have the belief in what I was doing.

Or I thought I was doing it wrong, where in reality, I just haven’t let it go long enough to see the results.

It happens in all aspects of life and business.

It happens in blogging.

Sometimes in blogging, people will just start blogging.

Even though they’re really good bloggers, it takes a while to get that readership.

If you give up too soon, you’ve given up on a lot of good stuff—like the results!

The other part of it’s not working is — it stopped working.

This is when you see a blip of results.

You start to see some results then you say…

“Great, this is fantastic! This is working. I love it. Let’s explode this thing.”

You get all psyched.

You’re really going for it.

All of a sudden, your results drop off again.

Not good, right?

You start to think…

“What changed? What did I do wrong? What’s happening here?”

If you’ve ever read the book by Seth Godin called The Dip, this is a well-documented phenomenon in many aspects of life.

You get an initial rise in results and then it dips down.

It will ultimately come back up if you keep going, but there’s always a dip, not always, but a lot of times, there’s a dip.

This dip, to me, separates the men from the boys, if you will.

Not being sexist here, but you know what I mean.

It’s what separates out the super serious from the wannabes.

You get a little bit of success and it goes to your head

Lots of people bail when they see the dip or they go off and try something else.

Or they think…

“What am I doing wrong?”

Again, it comes down to belief.

Stick here in EMP and you will have the belief, all right?

This stuff just happens.

This is not a one-time thing for me.

This stuff is coming from my experience because I’ve done it, I know, so I’m not judging and you shouldn’t judge yourself.

You shouldn’t feel bad.

This is all part of growing up in your business and in life.

So understand that stuff.

2. Buying into the sexy

It’s the shiny objects.

I know you guys have heard all about this, but I’m going to ask you to think about them again because this is a trap to your success.

It’s a trap to keep you in mediocrity.

It’s a trap to keep you away from your greatness.

Always buying the sexy, the something new that comes along.

Here’s the thing.

Another good book recommendation is called “The Slight Edge” from Jeff Olson.

The Slight Edge is a great book.

I’ve read it three times now.

I think I’m going to read it every year.

What it comes down to is—there’s a small series of things that you do in anything you want to do successfully.

Baby steps bring you up from no results to success

What happens is we do that and then for whatever reason, we stop doing those things.

It makes no sense.

Sometimes it’s shiny objects, something else comes along.

Maybe these little things aren’t giving us success as fast as we want or sometimes, honestly, we just get distracted by life and we forget to do these things again.

They haven’t become habits yet.

For example, let’s go to different aspects, not just business.

In weight loss, in your health, you can do small things every day to help yourself lose weight.

You could eat better.

You can take a 20-minute walk every day.

Gradually, over time, you start to see some results.

For whatever reason, we stop doing those things and we go back to where we were.

They’re not hard things.

They’re easy things to do.

In business, it’s doing what I call your “money test”

Doing that thing every day to grow your business, that thing that will most likely give you results.

It’s not hard.

It can be prospecting three people.

It could be placing an ad or reviewing the ad to see how it’s doing.

It could be something very, very simple in your business that you do every day that starts to give you results.

But for some reason, you get away from it.

It’s a psychological trap that something is sexier, something is better, something is going to give me results faster.

In reality, if we just kept doing those simple little things every day, our results would not only go up, but eventually, they would go up exponentially.

But we stop doing it.

It’s a trap.

3. “Nobody knows how bad I have it”

You’re got to play the hand you’re dealt.

Everybody has excuses.

Everybody has reasons why they can’t get things done.

For me, it’s my busy schedule and I play the age card.

“I’m too old for this stuff.”

I fight that.

Somehow in my subconscious, that got into my head.

The excuses can come.

There’s always somebody else out there who has it worse than you, who’s getting more results than you.

I know that that hurts and I know you want to fight back at me.

You want to give me a list of why you can’t do stuff and I’m not judging you.

That list is valid.

I get it, but you need to push through because there’s always somebody out there, who’s doing it and has it worse than you.

Who has more kids at home, who works more hours than you, who has a worse disease than you do.

There are always people worse off than you, who are getting results.

You need to think…

“Okay, then why am I letting it stop me?”

It’s a trap.

It’s justification.

Here’s something I need you to write down because it’s a key.

Excuses are your subconscious’ way of justifying your mediocrity

Let me repeat that.

Excuses are your subconscious’ way of justifying your mediocrity.

I urge you to go on to your Facebook wall today and post that and see what response you get.

You might get plus and minus.

Some people will say…

“Right on, you’re right.”

Other people will say…

“You don’t understand my problems.”

Then you’ll have a chance to have some conversations here.

So, let me say it again…

Excuses are your subconscious’ way of justifying your mediocrity

That’s what it is.

It’s keeping you safe.

It’s keeping you from getting out of your comfort zone and maybe risking stuff.

Your excuses are keeping you from your greatness.

Everybody has excuses!

I do, you do, everybody does and some of them are really good ones.

Like I said, there’s always somebody out there who’s worse off than you, who are getting results.

So you must breakthrough.

The last one I won’t spend a lot of time on because I’ve talked about it before…

4. “I’ll do it tomorrow”

Complacency and a lack of urgency are the two worst weapons for people who aren’t with their back against the wall.

If your back is against the wall, you need to make money, you must get results.

That puts you in a different class.

You need to do things.

You must break out of your comfort zone.

There’s no way out, right?

You got to do it.

For the majority of us, that’s not our story.

Maybe our bills are getting paid by a job we have or a job our spouse has.

Maybe we’re not against the wall financially.

We’re not against the wall emotionally.

We’re not against the wall spiritually.

We’re comfortable and we’re complacent because of that comfort.

So a really super powerful trap that our mind, our subconscious plays on us is that…

“I can do that tomorrow.”

We must watch for that.

We need to watch that language coming out of our mouth or in our thoughts because that’s our subconscious’ way of keeping us in mediocrity.

I know this is stuff you probably don’t want to hear, but I hope you’re getting value.

Again, there’s no judgment.

I understand because I’ve gone through each and every one of these more than once.

It’s only when I realized that this was really my subconscious playing against me that I was able to grow more and become a better marketer and better person in my life.

These four triggers, the it’s not working or it stopped working, this looks better over here, the shiny object, the excuses or the complacency, these traps –

How do you fight them?

Well, number one is what you’re doing today by reading this post…

First By Becoming aware….

Become really aware of your thoughts and your words, so that you can identify what’s going on.

You can take power over this, over these traps, just by becoming aware of them.

Most people go through life not even knowing what’s going on.

They don’t even know they’re falling victim to their subconscious.

They just go through life, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

They go through life and they’re not a pilot.

They’re just getting through the day.

People in business, just trying to get through the day.

I hear people ask…

“How was your day?”

Answer…

“I got through it.”

That makes me sad.

Listen, I know we get tired, we get complacent.

Sometimes I have days where I’m getting through the day, so I’m not judging.

Awareness is the number one thing.

Then the second thing, once you’re aware, then you…

Next You Fight back

When you fight back, then you recognize…

  • “Hey, maybe it’s not that this thing isn’t working. Maybe I haven’t given enough time yet. Maybe I need to keep going.”
  • “Maybe this shiny object really isn’t better.”
  • “Maybe I must have the belief in what I’m doing,”
  • “Maybe my excuses are a bunch of BS and I need just to get up there and get on my computer and get going.”
  • “Maybe I need to create some artificial deadlines, so that I’m not complacent.”
  • “Maybe I have to figure my way out of this box, out of this trap.”

So awareness, number one and then fighting back is number two.

Once you’re aware, you can fight back, you can breakthrough!

You can escape mediocrity

There’s a lot of us who are stuck in that pot of mediocrity.

In fact, I think almost all of us, because almost all of us can be better than where we are now.

I think we can all agree on that.

So if you want to learn more about moving out of mediocrity and into your greatness…

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These methods allow you to build your business automatically—where prospects reach out to you (instead of you having to reach out to them).

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Until Next Time….

 

~Nerissa

 

How To Stay Productive When You Feel Like You Can’t Do It All? ….Part 3

So last week we spoke about Prioritizing your tasks and the week before we stated that Balance doesn’t exist.

Lastly, this week we will discuss It’s OK to say NO!

You can not manage your tasks effectively if you have more ASAP tasks than time in a day. It’s not cute to be busy and broke. Your goal is to be productive. Saying NO will Free you from over committing yourself and It will also release you from any additional menial tasks.

Accept the fact that you may disappoint someone because you are saying NO and prioritizing your tasks and time. You can’t please everyone, or do everything and you should not try to. Again your goal is to be productive and not overwhelmed and therefore some tasks will also be missed. It’s ok!!!

For the record, you will drop the ball like I did with forgetting to feed my 7 y/o dinner but guess what…its alright and she is still alive. Lol Don’t be too hard on yourself. Once you accept that there is no such thing as balance, prioritize and manage your tasks and understand that some things will not get done you’re on the road to success.

Until Next time

~Nerissa💋

 

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How To Stay Productive When You Feel Like You Can’t Do It All? ….Part 2

So last week we discussed Balance and that it doesn’t exist. This week we will discuss the second step which is to Manage Your Tasks.

You have so many priorities but you can’t do it all and do it successfully. You must, must, must, manage your tasks and not have them manage you. I found that using the strategy below helps me to be more productive.

Prioritize your priorities in 3 categories :

1. Must complete ASAP. These are the things that absolutely must get done and have immediate deadlines.

2. Must complete this week. This is truly the beginning of managing your tasks. If it doesn’t have an immediate deadline but must be addressed then prioritize those tasks then schedule it on your calendar to complete that week in order of priority.

3. Not Now but near future. These tasks need to be done but are not pressing nor have a deadline. Keep it in your to do list to revisit as time permits.

My kids know if they want something they can’t ask once…they have to remind me because if it’s not a priority at the time it may get lost in all the other Not Now’s in my mind so I make a to do list to go back to.

This strategy helps to set my intentions for the day and week and helps to ensure I am successfully completing what’s important. Stay tuned for Part III next week…

Until Then

~Nerissa 💋

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How To Stay Productive When You Feel Like You Can’t Do It All? Part 1

So Number 1……the word BALANCE is severely overrated. There are so many articles and trainings out about balance but I’m here to disappoint you and tell you that it doesn’t exist.

Yeah i said it……there is no such thing as BALANCE. Get it out of your mind, it’s ok, it doesn’t exist. Stop trying to achieve the unachievable instead manage your tasks, in which we will touch upon later.

I for one as a nurse leader, with a successful home based business, kids in sports and dance, a Hubby with needs, plus serving in ministry and a job-profit Board didn’t even have a chance to comb my daughters hair some Sunday nights.

I can never forget one evening I came home and started working on my business and personal stuff. My husband attended his church ministry and came home after 9p and my daughter came downstairs to greet him and asked “mom what’s for dinner?”. He looked at me, I looked at him and he said “ Ahhhh so you didn’t feed my daughter”……..OOPS! We laughed it off and he graciously made her a sandwich.

I tried for so many years trying to figure out how some of these successful women manage a family, spouse, business, fashion, fitness, ministry and not miss a beat. They make it look so easy but often don’t show the chaos behind the scenes like the ones in my home……organized chaos. Lol

Stay tuned for Part II next week…

Until Then

~Nerissa 💋

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Get Ready For Your Next!

I heard something great this week that just made me shift my focus. Often times we go through situations where we feel like we are not making any progress. You look at your current situation and feel like you’re in the same place, and stuck. You feel like you even have taken a few steps back. You’re looking around you and seeing successful people doing great things and wondering when will it me my turn. Your experiencing all the ups and downs in your business and career and fell as if you are moving backwards.

Let me encourage you today……think of your journey like a slingshot! Those steps you are taking backwards and the discouragement is the stretching and pulling that God is doing. He is pulling and pulling and stretching and pulling and guess what’s next?

He is getting ready to release. What happens when you pull a slingshot all the way back and release……..you propel forward with FORCE!

Imagine…..God is stretching you to propel you forward. This is the only way for you to accomplish what he has set in your heart to accomplish. That release will propel you to your next level because of how far back he had to pull and stretch you.

Just know that you are propelling forcefully into your next season, allow yourself to be stretched so that God can move you. Just be patient!

Until Next Time

~Nerissa 💋

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Tips to make it through the heat wave!

If you are on the East Coast then you are definitely experiencing this 95+ degree heat.

Here are a few tips on how to make it through this heat wave

1. Avoid alcohol and sugary beverages! These extremely dehydrate the body

2. Eat fruits and veggies. They have natural water in them which can help to maintain hydration.

3. Stay indoors in a cool area as much as possible. Do most of your activity after sundown if possible.

4. TMI……… but monitor the color of your urine. The darker and more concentrate it is the more water you need to drink.

5. Of course…..Drink lots of water to prevent being thirsty. Signs of thirst may be signs of dehydration. Water is also good for maintaining body temp and circulation. If water is bland try adding flavors to your water. I use Mango Passion Hydrate in my water to not get bored with it. This not only quenches my thirst but provides me with the essential nutrients and electrolytes I need that I lose throughout the day through this heat wave.

Click Here to try some Hydrate for yourself and ensure you are staying hydrated through this heatwave and rest of the summer.

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Until Next Time

~Nerissa 💋

40 Day or 40 Year Goals………What Will it Be For You?

In the Bible there is great story about the Israelites and the promise that God gave them. A promise of prosperity in a land of milk and honey. This journey was supposed to take 40 days but instead it took 40 years. One important thing is that during the 40 years of wandering in the wilderness God still provided quail and manna.

Check this out…..God has promised you something, he knows it will take you some time to finish but it is taking much longer because of your lack of faith, uncertainty and fears. You will not take a leap of faith, go full force to achieve what God has promised because you are comfortable with the provision. Just like the Israelites, God is still providing for you as you wander in the wilderness.

He has great things for you but you’re still satisfied in the wilderness. What will it take for you to receive the promise of prosperity in the land of milk and honey? What will it take for you to blow through those goals and the vision God gave you?

He just doesn’t want to provide for you, he wants to do exceedingly and abundantly above all you can ask or think but……….your comfortable in the small provisions.

Don’t allow yourself to take 40 years to accomplish what God has promised you in 40 days.

Here are three things you can do now to accomplish your goals timely:

Have Faith – You don’t need a lot…the size of a mustard seed can move a mountain. As long as you have it make a decision to move forward to accomplish your goals.

Take consistent Action- Faith without works is dead. You must take consistent action in faith knowing that if you take the first step God has the rest. Be consistent.

Take the land- Act as if you have ready received it. What does it look like? How do you feel once accomplished? Who will benefit the most and what will they say? What will the testimonies be? Who will you become in the process.

Again, your 40 day journey should not take you 40 years. Just like the Israelites, you are fully equipped and have everything that you need to be successful and accomplish your goals.

Take Action Now!

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~Nerissa 💋

Are you making every day count?

So we all know that are days on earth are numbered and we don’t know when that time will come. In order to progress successfully through life we need to make every day count.

Whatever your goals, dreams or desires are, you need to work on it everyday. Tomorrow isn’t promised. The question is, if that time were to come tomorrow what will your legacy be? What will you be remembered for? What did you accomplish?

Proverbs 6 says:

“Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise! It has no commander, no overseer or ruler, yet it stores its provisions in summer and gathers its food at harvest.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭6:6-8‬ ‭NIV‬‬

The little annoying ants we see at picnics are gathering food and saving for the winter months. These tiny creatures can surely teach us a lesson about preparing for the future. They are busy working for the later not for the immediate gratification. Just as the ants are preparing for later, you should too.

What should you be working on daily in order to see great progress and success later? Finances, health, debt, business, etc.

Hey you probably never even thought about leaving a legacy and that’s fine too but people will remember you for something………what will that be?

Until Next time…..💋

~Nerissa